Sep 6th, 2011 by maucerin
Bully-Busting
Letter 2
Dear Parent(s)/Guardians:
Lesson Two of the Bully-Busting Program: Recognizing Aggressive, Passive and Assertive Behavior (also called Monster, Mouse, and Me).
Here are the characteristics of the three behaviors:
Monster/Aggressive
What does this
style sound like? |
What does this
style look like? |
- Hurtful teasing
- Insults/name-calling
- Aggressive/sarcastic tone
- Uses repeated threats
- Blames others
- Gossips/spreads rumors
- Humiliates
- Uses highly emotional voice
- Uses profanity
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- Gets in your personal space
- Threatening gestures
- Defacing/destroying property
- Pushing/shoving/tripping
- Stealing
- Starting fights
- Giving dirty looks
- Ostracizing/shunning
- Plays mean tricks
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Mouse/Passive
|
What does this style sound like?
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What does this style look like?
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- Uses very
small voice or does not talk at all
- Whines
- Cries
- Apologizes
- Tries to
smooth things over
- Easily
upset
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- No eye contact
- Slumped shoulders
- Tries to make self look smaller
- Body turned away from situation
- Avoids situation / moves away
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Me/Assertive
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What does this style sound like?
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What does this style look like?
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- Calm, neutral voice
- States facts as they really are
without too much emotion
- Confident
- Takes responsibility
- Able to negotiate if necessary
- Good listener
- Good verbal skills
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- Uses eye contact
- Uses appropriate personal space
- Avoids negative body language (see
Monster and Mouse)
- Chooses a good time to discuss
problem
- Doesn’t involve others
|
Learning
to choose assertive techniques over passive or aggressive actions will be a
continuous endeavor. Please reinforce this lesson at home. Thank you.
